Pursuit of Happiness: Communication – Test

1. I usually work hard at winning people over to my way of thinking.
2. When others seem to be holding back an idea or strong opinion I’m not very good at getting them to open up.
3. In a risky situation, I encourage others to express their opinions but I have the good sense to keep my beliefs to myself.
4. It’s better to hold back negative feedback than hurt someone’s feelings.
5. After making a strong point, I intentionally encourage other’s views by ending with a question.
6. Sometimes, I’ve been known to use terms such as “bean counters,” nerds and jerks.
7. I don’t shy away from a discussion even if it means a confrontation with a hostile person or group.
8. When others are slipping into an argument, I help close the gap by pointing to a common purpose.
9. To be honest, there are times I’m abrasive if the situation warrants it.
10. People who know me would say I try to win most of my arguments.
11. Rather than confront others when they’re bothering me, I tend to bottle up my feelings.
12. Even when it’s potentially painful, I usually walk right up and face people with whom I’m having a disagreement.

ANSWERS:

1. T, add one point to V
2. F, add one point to P
3. T, add one point to S
4. T, add one point to S
5. T, add one point to P
6. T, add one point to V
7. F, add one point to S
8. T, add one point to P
9. T, add one point to V
10. T, add one point to V
11. F, add one point to P
12. F, add one point to S

RESULTS:

If you have mostly S, you tend to go silent in an argument.

If you have mostly P, you tend to be peaceful in an argument.

If you have mostly V, you tend to be violent in an argument.